I have been married for 34 for years to my amazing husband and best friend, Randy Alward and am the mother of three grown sons and two daughter-in-laws.

Lost & Found

Lost & Found

The movie August Rush is a beautiful story of a musically gifted prodigy looking for his parents and using his gifts to find them.  It’s a stunning idea. August, an 11-year-old orphan, runs away from an orphanage to go look for his long-lost parents in NYC because he truly believes they’re alive and he will find them.  As fate would have it, he ends up befriending a crooked con man named Wizard, who is excited to discover the incredible musical gifts that August has – all he can see is the money that August will make him.

Wizard asks August one day, “August, what do you wanna be in the world?  In the whole wide world, what do you wanna’ be?”  After a long pause, the answer that August gives is profound. 


It still gives me chills.  (See the movie, it’s amazing.)  All of us want to be found.  To be found by a friend who loves us unconditionally.  To be found by our future soulmate.  To be found and loved by a family.  To be found by a God who loves us more than we could possibly imagine. We’ve all been the lost orphan who is looking to be found, at different times in our life.   And often we try to validate ourselves through all the wrong ways:  buying another pair of shoes, eating Reese’s Cups and chips, addictions, entering into bad relationships because we can’t stand to be alone.  I’ve looked for fulfillment in all of these ways when I’ve felt alone and empty.  I know without a doubt that all of us have felt that emptiness at some time in our life, the need to be validated. 

A few years ago, my husband and I moved to Portland, Oregon from Southern California.  I had just lost my Dad, a hero to me.  My dear Mom sold her home and moved to another state.  My boys all moved out of our house for good, or at least for now.  (Why didn’t anyone ever tell me how hard being an empty nester would be?) My husband’s business made changes, good changes, but changes nonetheless.  We moved to a big city into a high rise for the first time in our lives.  No house.  An apartment, 22 floors up in the air in Portland.  We left the gorgeous beach and hot, sunny days to move to Portland.  It rains a lot here.  A lot.

And, for the first time in a long time I needed to feel validated.  I felt alone and unsure about what was happening in my life.  The purpose I had felt for so long as a mother (see the picture of my boys) and even my comfortableness living in southern California was gone. I felt completely un-centered.


Through all the long talks with my husband, Randy (yes, he’s amazing) and with all the adjustments I’ve tried to make, I’ve been struck by my need to find my center.  I wanted someone to walk up to me, give me a big hug, pat me on the back and tell me “You’re exactly where you should be Cathy.  Everything is going to be okay”.  That I was going to finish the second part of my life with success.

I know I’m not alone:  I know many people struggle with finding validation.  Maybe you’re a young person who is unsure about your future or you may wonder if you’ll ever meet the love of your life.  Maybe you’re trying to juggle working at a job while raising your kids, and you can’t seem to figure out how to find the strength to make it through another day; as a result, you often feel neglected and exhausted.  Maybe you seem to have it all together, but secretly you may have thought, is this all there is?  Or you might feel like it’s too late, that you’re too old to make a difference. 

Like August Rush, many of us just want to feel validated.  To be found.  To discover why we’re here and how we can live our life the best way possible.

Moving up to Portland and getting out of my comfort zone has turned out to be one of the best things that has ever happened to me because I took a big step towards my purpose.  It dawned on me as I stared at the rain from my 22-floor apartment that it’s not the boys who validated me, or the sunshine in Southern California or my friends or even my husband, Randy.  It became more real to me than ever that God is the source of my validation and the number one reason for waking up every day. 

Wherever we are in life, we all want to know our lives have mattered, that we were born for a purpose to be fulfilled and that we will live powerfully, love extravagantly and fulfill our destiny.  Because we all have a purpose to be alive and a destiny. 

So, I’ve written a new book.  Yay!

In the book, I talk about finding power in our lives spiritually, emotionally and physically.   I am so excited to share my journey, to share my stories, funny, sad and life-changing at times.  So many people over the past few years have told me they’re desperate for balance in their lives.   People have told me over and over again that they’re exhausted, that something has to change

Psalm 90:12 says, So teach us to number our days that we may get a heart of wisdom.  We all have a limited amount of days, some more than others, some less than others and God wants us to live these precious days full of joy, vitality, peace and balance.

Validation and finding out who God made us to be is taken from Chapter 7.  I’ve shared a sample of this chapter that takes a look at the amazing person you are and the future that God has promised each and every one us.

Because we all have a great purpose for being here on this earth. Without a doubt you have a purpose, a destiny, a reason for being alive.

If you are among the many people who are worn out and exhausted, you’re not alone. I truly believe God has a plan that will help us balance our lives and find strength.  It works. It’s worked for me.  Please join me as we find more balance in our lives, together.

 Colossians 1:29 says, “For this I toil, struggling with all HIS energy that he powerfully works within me.” And Isaiah 40:28 tells us, “But they who wait for the Lord shall renew their strength; they shall mount up with wings like eagles.”

I want you to be found. And I want to help you find your wings.

With love,